Narcissists can be so manipulative that it’s hard to tell whether they decide to move on and end the relationship or cut contact as a technique to lure you in. So, what are the real signs a narcissist is done with you?

It’s better to recognize when a narcissist is done with you rather than continuously hampering your self-esteem and self-respect. It’s essential to be aware of these signs to heal from any trauma caused by the relationship and avoid getting into similar relationships.

Let’s explore some glaring signs I have observed in my vast client experience and personal relationships with narcissists. With the help of this article, you can easily find out if a narcissist is done with you and how you can effectively heal from this experience.

First Things First… Are You in A Narcissistic Relationship?

signs you're living with a narcissist in the same house

Narcissistic relationships typically involve one partner exhibiting extreme self-centeredness and entitlement while the other feels neglected, unimportant, and invisible. Narcissists tend to be controlling, manipulative, and often emotionally abusive in their relationships.

Read more: 12 Traits of a Narcissist To Spot Immediately & Avoid Attachment

If you are in a relationship with such a person, then you can verify their narcissistic supply by seeing if they present the following telltale signs:

Incredibly Charming At First

If your narcissistic partner seems nice and charming at first but then starts to act like they are better than the other person, it is a clear sign that the narcissist’s abuse cycle has started.

Such a person sets the tone such that you are constantly reminded that they can be a good person because they were friendly and charming at first. However, the narcissist continuously takes advantage of this via acts like silent treatment, bad behavior, and other manipulation techniques. If you have a similar experience, it is time to start reconsidering your ways.

Love Bombing

This is a common technique used by narcissists to make you feel special and loved in the early stages of a relationship. They will shower you with compliments, gifts, and attention as if they can’t get enough of you. For people with low self-esteem, this is a pivotal ego boost that entrances them into this relationship with a narcissist.

Once they have achieved what they wanted from you, the love bombing phase stops abruptly and without warning. This is usually followed by other signs that eventually form a toxic relationship. The love bombing stage can also lead to a trauma bond, like the first sign, where you are constantly reminded that this person can be good to you.

Looking for Praise

Narcissists are always looking for ways to raise their self-esteem, so they emphasize getting admiration and praise from other people. A narcissistic partner will often ask you to compliment or admire them somehow, even if it isn’t warranted.

If a narcissistic person constantly asks you to feed their narcissistic supply like this, it is one of the most prominent guest telltale signs of their emotional intelligence.

Thinking They Are Right

Narcissists are convinced that they are right about every single thing. They will argue with you until the end and never admit they were wrong. This also shows that they are not good at taking responsibility, and this trait will end up dragging the argument into a black hole!

If your partner continuously argues with you or refuses to acknowledge their mistakes, then it’s a sign that they have narcissistic tendencies. This can be emotionally draining for you because the narcissist ignores valid arguments that eventually form an abusive relationship, which is detrimental to your emotional well-being.

Lacking Empathy

Narcissists lack empathy and cannot put themselves in someone else’s shoes. They have a hard time understanding how you feel, even if it is something they did.

If a person acts like they don’t understand why you are feeling the way you do or always blame you for things that aren’t your fault, then that is a big sign that they are narcissists.

Does A Narcissist Ever Let Go Of A Victim?

Like any other human being, narcissists don’t necessarily know when to let someone go. However, they can be impulsive and often jump into a new relationship with a new person or a new “victim” without really thinking through the potential consequences of their decision.

In many cases, once they’ve got what they wanted from the current victim, they leave them like a broken toy and quickly move on to a new supply of friends that can boost their egos.

Thus, you can never know if a narcissist is done with their current life. Therefore, my telltale signs to figure them out early on might be your answer to moving forward with a narcissist.

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When A Narcissist Realizes They Lost You

When narcissists realize they want to move on, they often do so without warning. This is because their emotions precede the feelings of those around them. The narcissist may not even consider how their partner will be affected by the sudden change.

They feel pretty confident in their feelings and act on them quickly. They stop talking or start accusing the victim. They don’t even offer closure once they realize they have lost you. A narcissist would want to break up soon and move on to a new supply of friends to initiate their healing journey. With enough supply, they would always bring more people/family members into their toxic web.

The 9 Glaring Signs A Narcissist Is Done With You

As discussed, to avoid forming a trauma bond or living with a narcissist in the same house, you should follow these signs to know if a narcissist is done with you. The accurate, true way out of such a relationship with a narcissist is to assess the situation with these signs. You must also not feel bad when doing so; it will likely cloud your judgment.

the narcissistic abuse cycle

The Love Bombing Stops

The narcissist will stop giving you the attention they once poured on you. It is usually followed by other signs that eventually form a toxic atmosphere in the same house that you live in.

This is the beginning of them showing their true self. You won’t feel inadonce pouredint in life, but if you do begin to feel that way later on, it is one of the signs a narcissist is done with you.

Constant Discard

The narcissist will start devaluing your opinions and discard you from their life. They won’t even give you the time to explain yourself or understand where they are coming from.

They would also stop communicating with you even if it was once the foundation of your relationship; this is a vital sign that something has changed in their behavior towards you.


The narcissist sees a different future, ignores you, and won’t answer your calls or texts. This is a sign that they are done with the relationship and don’t want to invest any time or energy in it.

This is a crucial key manipulation technique for narcissists so they don’t have to take responsibility for letting you go. It also shows the narcissist is done and moving on in the world.

Hard To Reach

Narcissists often don’t make themselves available, making it difficult to reach them. They won’t listen to what you have to say when you finally talk. After observing concrete signs like this one, it might not be worthwhile for you anymore.

Extreme Devaluation

Extreme gaslighting and self-loathing can be a sign that a narcissist is done. Within this behavior, you can see the truth of the current situation and their personality. They will make you feel like you are at fault for everything, making you feel inadequate.

Irritation And Indifference

The narcissist will start becoming irritated with you and your words. They will make sure to show this in the tone of their voice or body language. Such a sign should be a big red flag in any relationship and show you how much they value you in their life.


This is a classic sign that the narcissist is done with you. They will disappear and ignore all your calls or messages. This should be an ultimate sign to move on in life because if they don’t value the relationship, it’s time for you to go, too.

Unnecessary Belittling

The narcissist will start belittling you and any of your achievements or successes. They will feel threatened by anything that brings positive attention to you which is a sign that they are done with the relationship. This is one of the more extreme signs, after which lies cheating and physical abuse.

Approaching Other Supply

Your relationship with a narcissist is finished when they start approaching other people as their narcissistic supply, and you see they are actively flirting. This constitutes cheating and the final straw in this situation.

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9 signs a narcissist is done with you

Do Narcissists Care If You Move On?

The narcissist doesn’t care if you or not because they have already moved on mentally. Their attention is now focused on their next source of supply; thus, they really pay attention to what you are doing.

Moving on from a relationship with a narcissist can be difficult and may take some time to heal fully. But one thing is for sure: the narcissist, thus, really cares whether to move on or not.

Therefore, you must know these signs and act accordingly to ensure you can live without too much stress and trauma.

Read more: Narcissist Gaslighting: 19 Ways to Spot This Dangerous Abuse

What Are The Stages Of A Narcissistic Breakup? (And How to Heal)

Understanding the signs above lets you know if a narcissist is finished with the relationship. Eventually, you will have to decide and move on as well. By learning these stages below, you can navigate the beak-up more efficiently and find yourself on the path to self-care.

Shock, Confusion, and Denial

It can be shocking when a narcissist suddenly stops loving and caring for you. You begin to question yourself and your actions as the confusion sets in. In the beginning, you might try to defend the narcissist’s behavior or even try to make excuses for them. However, after this hurdle, you must move on to separation and bring yourself to see the truth of the other person.


This is the stage where you must learn to separate yourself from the relationship. It may not be easy, but it is necessary for survival and growth. You must cut off all communications with the other person, delete their contact information, and block them on social media platforms. This will help you create a safe environment and distance yourself from their toxic behavior.

Extremely Complicated Grief

When you are ready to a fact that the narcissist is done with you, you may feel an immense sense of grief. This could last a few months as getting over someone who has caused so much pain and made your life challenging. The best way to cope with this kind of grief is to seek help from a mental health professional.

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Protecting Yourself From Them

At this stage, you must protect yourself from the narcissist. This means that you should stay away from them as much as possible and not take any chances by engaging in any way. You need to remember to take care of your mental health before anything else, or the trauma could set in again.

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Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse

The last and most important stage is to start recovering from narcissistic abuse. This could take a while as you have to re-learn how to trust yourself, your decisions, and your emotions. Practice self-care regularly, get professional help if needed, and try to reconnect with friends and family who can support you during this difficult time.

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Final Thoughts

9 glaring signs a narcissist is done with you

Relationships with narcissists can be highly complicated and even dangerous. It is essential to recognize the signs that a narcissist is done with you so that you can take the necessary measures to protect yourself.

Remember, it is okay to move on and heal from this trauma without feeling wrong about the other person since they did not even acquire closure.